I Left My Husband after He Used Me as a Cook and Nanny for His Kids – 15 Years Later, His Daughter Brought Me to Tears
I married a man after dating shortly, thinking we’d be happy. Some people might say that his forcing me to meet his kids within a few days of our dating was a red flag, but I didn’t see it. By the time I realized I was in too deep, it was too late, and I was forced to put my well-being first.
I, Madison, was 22 when I met Will, 29, a newly widowed man with two children, a daughter Tamara, and a son Nick. Our romance blossomed fast, leading him to introduce me to his kids VERY early into our relationship.
I must admit, I found it a bit strange to meet them within the first few days after our introduction. But, he rationalized his behavior to me by insisting I was “the one,” not just for him but also for his children.
Perhaps I was gullible because he swept me off my feet, and we married a year later. Our wedding day was different because it included special vows I made to his children and vice versa. It was a poignant moment that was entirely Will’s idea.
But not long after the wedding, the fairy tale cracked. Despite my full-time job, Will pushed ALL the childcare, cooking, and household responsibilities onto me. He used any excuse to justify his disengagement saying things like:
“I’m wiped out from work, you know how it is. You’re so good with them, it just makes sense for you to handle it.”
His free time gradually became consumed by video games or nights out with friends. All the while, I juggled my job and the full weight of household responsibilities. “I’m bringing in the money and keeping the roof over everyone’s heads,” he’d argue when I brought up my exhaustion, adding:
“I deserve to relax.”
My husband’s attitude shifted too. He grew dismissive and sometimes outright disrespectful. These traits he unfortunately passed on to his children who began mimicking his behavior. They treated me more like a servant than a stepmother.
“Why do you always make us do things? Dad lets us have fun,” they’d complain, echoing Will’s sentiment. Within the first year of our marriage, I had already realized that our union was a big mistake. But I struggled with what to do as I felt bound by my promises to my stepkids.